There is no such things as an "Answers to Life" textbook. The only one that could ever exist, would be the blank one that you start with. There isn't a right answer and there isn't a formula. Human emotional is as unique as a fingerprint. Humans feel, think and make decisions. We think through problems, our feelings guide it which way to go, and then we make a choice. I wish there was some sort of answer but there isn't. All the advice in the world could help you to understand, but things aren't solved until they are solved, and that's when you get your answer.